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Having a good life is about having an uninhibited state of mind. And, while some problems can seem complicated and unwieldy – approaching them with a ready key for change can unlock the proverbial cages that keep parts of your life hidden.

I think the best advice is universal and pays attention to the sensual qualities of the world around us.

Here are a few tidbits that have helped me get by:

Virgin Territory

There is a first time for everything. And, while it may be awkward, weird or even painful (ouch!) – if you take things slowly and don’t rush, you’ll find that no matter how scary or unappealing something may seem (or feel) you might have some fun, learn something and come out on the other side unscathed.

And it’s not so bad after all – if you try it, at least once.

Have Chemistry. Will Travel

All good relationships have great underlying chemistry - that certain something that keeps them going. Chemistry is 25% hormonal and the rest is made up of good vibes.

Chemistry is the social lubricant that keeps good relationships going.

Keep passion levels high

You can’t get too much out of your individual endeavors, relationships or attractions if you don’t have any passion to go along with them.

Great atmosphere and a good mood are a must

What kind of atmosphere and mood are you setting for your career and your social life? In order to successfully navigate professional pairings – the atmosphere has to be right.

Set the mood with whatever means necessary to get things moving along in their intended direction.

Change is all about setting – are you ready? Are the conditions ripe with opportunity? What if they aren’t?

You may have to create some.

Sometimes, you have to get a little dirty

Getting dirty means being gritty, bare bones and doing hard work. The “pretty” side of things is thrown in the backseat. Muss your hair, roll up your sleeves – sweat a little (better yet, a lot).

When you work hard, you discover what gives your world a bigger and more in-depth dimension.

In other words, you create meaning in your hard work.

A little perversion never hurts

If you were to solely focus on the “innocence” of everything you end up staying uninformed, naïve and out of touch.

Don’t get into trouble because you wish to remain ignorant - if you don’t, you’ll rarely be caught by “surprise.”

Use toys

Toys make life fun. The gadgets that you and I use to get through the daily grind press our precious little pleasure buttons.

Get in tune with toys that make your days more enjoyable, take your mind off matters or create some much needed order for an otherwise hectic, frenetic world.

A little mental sludge can be exterminated with a quick pick me up of toy satisfaction.

Use your mouth

You can’t get things done (or have any fun) if you don’t tell people what’s going on. Tell others what you like and don’t like.

Not everything has to be a criticism; communication can be encouragement and praise as well.

And sometimes, when we tell people to keep doing the things we like – we get a pleasurable result indeed.

Give a show

To keep things on track, sometimes you have to show people you mean business. Show them what you can do (and how it can get done).

Performance is an effective measure of ability - show others your talents and skills in the light of a professional stage.

Don’t focus solely on results

Not everything needs to accumulate into a big bang of personal satisfaction. Sometimes, you do things just to get them done or you wanted something to distract you.

The result is not so much important as is the process.

Following the steps is enough in some cases and just getting through things is all what we really need.

Scream (loudly)

You have to let it out – when you are angry, sad, happy, joyous - whatever. Go somewhere and scream.

Switch things up

Routine is the death of good ideas. Change positions. Switch locations. Do something differently – you won’t regret it.

Touch what feels good

It makes no sense to do things that bore and de-motivate you. Your brain’s pleasure centers can be invigorated by a multitude of sources.

Make sure that you are stimulating yourself culturally, intellectually and physically.

Sometimes, you have to go solo

There will be times where you will feel alone – and actually be alone. But, that’s fine because sometimes being by ourselves is the best thing for us.

Use that time to explore your own desires, goals, wants and needs – inner introspection is time well spent.